Emotional Vampires and what to do about them

 Originally posted in 2017. 


An emotional vampire is something that sucks your good energy out of you.  How do you protect yourself from emotional vampire situation, people and events?  Don't let them in. Be an observer. I'm not saying cut yourself off emotionally from everything. I'm saying be discerning when it comes to your emotions. Easier said than done, I know. It's something I myself am still learning to do. It takes time and practice. Sensitive souls wander this world constantly 'feeling' deeply and often times feeling bad for people and/or events. That doesn’t mean you have to be a martyr.  If there is something terrible happening to someone or if there is an emotional event, shield yourself. You can still be there for other people without sacrificing your own well-being. Again, I know this is easier said than done.  And I don't mean for you to be emotionless.  Emotions are what make us beautiful human beings.  I just want you to be shielded from other people's energies and situations that may cross paths with your energy.  The hope is not to take on someone else's low energy, emotions, to help them by giving your energy away.  The hope is to have strong energy and hold the vibration of love.  This is going to benefit everyone.  



For example, a friend comes to you for help.  Certainly, listen and if need be, imagine you both, individually in a cocoon of golden light.  This image not only shields you both but helps each of you heal and become stronger.  Be there for them. You do not need to take on someone else’s pain.  I know your sensitive heart wants to make it all better for others, but this doesn’t help anyone.  What this will do is make you sick and them become codependent.  What we want is to feel supported while we become stronger.  No one wants to make someone else weaker, but it happens naturally when we don’t protect ourselves.  Visualizing the cocoon or a protective shield around each of you helps.


When it comes to situations or events, send love and blessings to the situation. Again, make sure to picture yourself protected by an invisible shield of golden light.  If you find this difficult, just place your hand over belly and hold it there. Why the belly? this is where your solar plexus chakra lives.  The solar plexus chakra is in charge of your boundaries, your strength as well as your protective shield for your energy.  If you like, you may even see the situation or group of people shielded.  It also helps to look for the good.  Even if it’s small.


These terrible, sad, or heartbreaking moments can strengthen us.  This isn’t the time to put up a wall, but instead to have a boundary.  Boundaries reflect who you are and who you are not.   



Love Tip: Boundaries strengthen everyone involved, walls separate us.  Bring down the walls that block out love from coming in and going out.  Have clear, peaceful boundaries that are connected to who you are as a person and your beliefs. 


This love tip goes beyond emotional situations that can suck the life out of us, choose boundaries over walls.  


If you want to take your energy higher and heal yourself and others, keep your energy high.  How you do this is to take care of your chakras.  Here is a chakra clearing meditation I do every day, It's yours as a gift.  


I hope love flows to and from you always and if you are experiencing an emotional situation of your own, I am sending love to you.  


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Peace, Love & Hugs!


Dorothy

Location: Nantucket, MA, USA

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